The Lie Behind Treating Yo' Self
Nourish Your Soul:
I used to think nourishing my soul meant Treat Yo’ Self….
It doesn’t. It means getting rid of the junk in your heart. It means letting go of the thoughts that aren’t serving you. The fears that hold you back. The doubts that keep you trapped. The expectations and distorted beliefs that lead you to think you have nothing to contribute or have to do it all to be happy.
Treating Yo’ Self with temporary treats like massages, getting your nails done, and indulging in the pint of Ben and Jerry’s have a time and a place; but they will never be a fulfilling solution. They are a bandaid resolution to a deeper aching discontent.
You can Treat Yo’ Self until your bank account is empty, your closet is full, and you can no longer squeeze into your favourite jeans and your heart still won’t be whole.
Treat Yo Self a little differently. Treat yourself to positive thinking. Treat yourself by letting go of the ridiculously high standards that you can’t meet. Treat yourself to knowledge and experiences and things that truly nourish your soul, not others perceptions.
Today, on my first day of being 28th, I am treating myself. I am enjoying breakfast in bed, without fear of calories. I am letting myself relax, without the anxiety of what I ‘should’ be doing. I am being me, to my core; keeping the memories over the last 27 years that have defined me, that have made me who I am, the good, the bad the ugly, and I am dreaming, of all that could, and will be over the next 28 years.
You see, when you start to treat yourself with respect, with self love and compassion, and doing the hard, deep, and messy work of loving yourself all along, you no longer need to treat yo’ self, because you’re daily treating yourself to the best, wholehearted version of you. And when you truly start treating yourself, there is no need to treat yo’ self, because self-love is no longer a temporary escape, but an entire state of being.
Today, I am treating myself, because I no longer need to treat ma’ self.